Fear can immobilize, but it can also cause people to fill their lives with so many activities that they fail to confront things that they dread or fear doing. On the surface, staying busy can appear to be very productive, but as is often the case, such busy-ness is nothing more than an alias for procrastination. Living one’s life this way is counterproductive, as there will always be the feeling of things left undone even when achieving great things in other areas of life. Unfulfilled and lacking peace, those who use busy-ness as an avoidance tactic must eventually correct this private habit and conquer whatever it is that they are avoiding in order to experience a sense of completeness.
Marriage and Post-Divorce Busy-nessDuring an unhappy marriage and, even after a divorce, a lot of women throw themselves into keeping every moment of their day filled with business meetings, transporting children to activities, studying, cooking, cleaning, shopping and a list of other similar activities. At a glance, one would view such energy as admirable. And, while each is important and a necessary part of living, some women purposely overload their schedules with lengthy to-do lists in an effort to avoid facing their fears. These fears may vary according to the individual woman, but unless this behavior is realized early, such a busy woman risks looking back on her life and realizing that she has wasted a lot of years avoiding issues that she should have dealt with a long time ago.
Getting to the Heart of Busy-ness
If you know in your heart that you are engaging in such busy-ness, take some time out to first admit it to yourself and then decide on making a change. Start by having a heart-to-heart with yourself and ask yourself the following questions: